frequenty asked questions

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Why come to therapy?

We all struggle with the challenges life throws at us at some point in our lives. Sometimes those challenges become overwhelming, and that is when it can be helpful to talk to someone who is not directly involved in your life, as a close friend or relative would be. Therapists are trained to see the 'bigger picture' of a person's psychology and they may offer suggestions which invite you to think about yourself in new and different ways. Therapy provides a safe and confidential environment to discuss your concerns with a trained practitioner who can help you reach understand yourself better, and find solutions to the things that are troubling you.

If you're considering therapy, the first thing to do is to book an initial consultation session and see whether therapy would be helpful for you. 

Am I the best person for you? The first consultation 

I offer an initial 30-minute consultation free of charge. This gives us an opportunity to meet, talk and explore the benefits of working together and to verify whether therapy would be of assistance to you. You will get a sense of how counselling/ therapy works in this session and it will give us both an opportunity to decide if I am the right person to work with you. Part of this comes down to personal style and 'chemistry'. It is only by coming and meeting me that you will know whether you want to come back and discuss more. 

This assessment is completely without obligation - if it doesn't feel right to you there is no need for us to meet again. You do not need to tell me why you are considering therapy when you call to make an appointment for the free assessment - just book a time that is convenient for you.

Am I accredited/ registered? 

I'm accredited with the UKCP as a Registered Psychotherapist

https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk

I was awarded an MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy from the Metanoia Institute in 2006. This degree combined theoretical and practical work, including many hours of supervised work with clients. In addition, all graduates are required to undergo a programme of therapy themselves so I am familiar with the therapy experience from both sides of the relationship.

How often do I need to come? And for how long? 

If we decide to work together then there is usually agreement for a further 3- 6 sessions, after which we review progress and agree the next steps.

I find that a 50 minute session once a week works best for most people. Of course, there will be some weeks when you will not be able to come but, ideally, we should meet on a regular, pre-agreed schedule to provide a sense of structure and continuity.

Many people just take a short course of 6 sessions. This is enough time to develop insight and to generate some strategies for managing your problems. If you feel that there is a deeper issue which is affecting your life then you may require a longer series of sessions. Some people come to therapy for several months, some for several years. I offer both short and long term therapy. Each person is different and we can discuss what may be most suitable for you during the initial assessment. 

My therapy room

Sessions are held in a designated and separate therapy room /office in my home in Wilmslow.  There is parking on the street outside. I don't have a waiting room so please come on time.  

How much does therapy cost?

Each session lasts 50 minutes and costs £40. 

I am able to accomodate one sliding scale / reduced rate at £25 per session. Please just ask if you feel you need this.  

Do I see couples?

While I mainly see individuals, I do have experience working with couples. I usually see couples together for 75 minutes at a cost of £50. 

How does therapy work?

There are many ways to answer this question: Therapy provides a space where you can talk to someone about things that are bothering you. By talking to someone who is genuinely interested but not personally involved you gradually learn more about yourself. For example, through therapy you may reach a better understanding of a current life event, or you may realise how events in your past are influencing your feelings and behavior now. This deeper self-understanding often gives us more choices in life. 

How confidential are you?

This is a very good question. All UKCP accredited psychotherapists work to a code of ethics.  http://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/UKCP_Documents/standards_and_guidance/32_UKCP_Ethical_Principles_and_Code_of_Professional_Conduct_approved_by_BOT_Sept_09.pdf

On the initial session I will give you a copy of a contract to complete and I will discuss these issues with you. A psychotherapist commits to respect, protect and preserve the confidentiality of their clients. Therapy is confidential, what people say about their private concerns remains confidential to the room with the following exception: If someone comes to therapy and poses a serious risk to themselves or others, I am ethically obliged to act on this.   

What if I have concerns or complaint about you as a therapist?

Hopefully you won't have any concerns about me as a therapist but if you do, UKCP offers a rigorous process for dealing with complaints. UKCP aims to ensure that all registered therapists are 'fit to practice'. Fitness to practice means:

·     having the skills, knowledge and character to work safely and effectively with clients

·     behaving in a way that safeguards public safety and maintains confidence in the psychotherapy profession

If you ever have any concerns about my performance or behavior as a therapist. If you feel able to do so, please do talk to me first about your concerns to see if I can put things right.   Or you can make a complaint directly to UKCP who will investigate on your behalf: http://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/16/information/complaints/making-a-complaint